Explosive temper, outbursts of anger, words flying, and people scattering – this is too often the environment of the person who chooses not to control their anger. How many people grow up under the tyranny of anger? How many spouses live their entire married lives hoping they do not set the other person off? How many angry people hate their lives and wish they could find an answer. Keep reading, because below are the steps to tame the rages of anger.
How about an example? Here is a guy spewing anger over his kids, yelling and cursing, then someone knocks on the door and he answers with gentle tones as if nothing had ever happened. What did he do? He controlled it when someone else entered the picture.
One of the biggest issues to deal with when planning a funeral is cost. In some cases, the death may have been expected and funds may have been secured. In other cases, a surprise occurrence could leave a family shocked and without financial means to take care of preparations.
When we entered the home of this tragically saddened family, the principal was standing near the door. When he saw me he smiled a gentle smile he had clearly been putting on all day. When he saw my sons, something in his face opened and he said, “Oh, more of my children. This is what will get me through.” As he enfolded them in a hug – that they both returned – they brought him a comfort I could not.
You will also need to respect the deceased families’ beliefs and wishes. This will include their religious beliefs. Most religions allow flowers to be delivered to the funeral home or even the burial site. Others though, Orthodox Jews for example, consider this rude. So in this case you would send them directly to the home. You should also avoid flower arrangements that are centered on a religious belief for the same reasons. This is especially true if you are unaware of their religious beliefs and preferences.
Have a family member or close friend give the eulogy instead of the funeral director. It will mean so much more coming from someone everyone knows instead of a stranger and save a little more money.
Jeremy was so impressed with his invention he was determined to have a Panopticon as his visit here and be place on public display. Certainly and odd request. But there is a difference between being odd and being disgusting.
If you are the president of the funeral home association and the blog is focused on helping your colleagues, appropriate humor isn’t out of line. For instance, the local headstone purveyor has a sign out front that says, “Drive carefully, we can wait for your business.” Funny, but with a message. Where you take the message after that attention-grabbing start is up to you.
This is hard. If you ignore this opportunity for teaching, it may (hopefully) not come up again for a while. That won’t avoid it forever though, and kids deserve this education as much as any other.